Stillbirth

Saying good-bye to your baby after giving birth is a tragic and horrible experience.

The birth of a child is a phase of life, not the beginning of it. Your baby had a life and he or she has a purpose in this world. When death takes its toll before or during birth you as a parent are ripped away from your dreams of hearing that first cry and watching your baby's little fist wrap around your finger. If these dreams have been stolen from you, then you have begun one of life's most difficult and heart wrenching journeys. There is so much yet to come, but we want to walk you through it. Step by little step.

Heaven's Hands mentors have walked this journey and deeply understand the pain and the emotion that overwhelms you. Although, this will be one of life's loneliest seasons, you are very much not alone. We will help you sift through the emotion and find your footing again. You deserve to be heard, or to listen, or simply to have a friend hold your hand a cry with you. We want to walk alongside you to offer whatever you may need in the days ahead.

What to do after a loss

  1. Please grieve. You will have to grieve at some point, so let yourself grieve now.
  2. Keep in mind that your journey is just that…your journey, not anyone else's. Remember you have to grieve in the way that best fits you, so don't let anyone tell you how you should be grieving.
  3. Do something tangible to honor your baby. If it "fits" you, pick a memorial spot where you can retreat to in order to mourn yet celebrate your baby's life. If you have any ultrasound pictures, frame them. Plant a baby rose bush as a way to remember your baby in years to come. Buy a teddy bear or something to hug and hold when your arms feel exceptionally empty.

Heaven’s Hands Mentors

  • You are not alone in your grief of pregnancy loss. So many people have walked in your shoes or are still walking a similar journey. Many of them have joined Heaven’s Hands and want to help you.
  • Heaven’s Hands mentors have experienced loss during pregnancy and have collaborated to form this ministry due to the lack of resources that exist for the very great need among parents that have suffered loss. They seek to help parents in all stages of life after a loss.
     

Resources

  1. I Will Carry You by Angie Smith
  2. Empty Arms by Pam Vredevelt
  3. Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg
  4. Safe in the Arms of God by John MacArthur
  5. Gone but Not Lost by David Wiersbe
  6. Website: Unspoken Grief
  7. Website: Silent Grief